This is definitely a fringe opinion, but I think that where the line is drawn should be a lot more lenient in my opinion than where you might consider appropriate. I think as far as things are concerned, as long as the parents are able to care for the child's basic physical needs (affection, nutrition, etc.) and doesn't show clear signs of abuse or ill intent in raising their children, nobody else needs to or should get involved. Is it possible that they might teach them things that aren't right? Sure. Who's to say that that's not going to happen should anyone else be involved? Do we as a society always know what's right? Does the state know what's right? Despite what I may have grown up thinking or been taught at home, I ran into different ideas and perspectives with other children or being taught at school throughout my childhood - that's what socialization is. I can say not all of those ideas were right. We were taught things about math, science, and history that weren't true.
I think the bottom line is that as long as kids grow up a loving family, they'll do alright it in life. I think parents should have the ability to raise, shelter, protect and teach their kids. I think cultures should be able to exist and propagate. Religion should be protected. The whole reason we're here in the first place is because of the diversity of of ideas we have anyways. Do you think that's going to propagate in a healthy way of you start saying the state has the supreme authority on what's right and true and they can take your kids if you don't engrain that in them?
I don't see collectivism as an immediate justification to dispense with personal freedoms.
I'm getting really tired so I'm gonna wrap this up, I'll most likely find some time tomorrow to expound upon this but just quick notes for now. I think 'accepting' is a poor word to use and sets the standard further than what most people actually think or expect. 'Tolerate' comes off as a bit harsh, but I think more of 'indefference' is the most you should expect or require of people. If you'd like to explain what the word means to you and why you chose it go ahead. I think tribalism is alive and well and something deeply engrained in people's minds. I think there's an inevitability of it and you can see it in all of the people around you. There's always going to be in groups and put groups. More often than not, most people aren't even 'tolerant' or 'indifferent' to those outgroups. Today it takes many forms - class, culture, political alignment, friend group, gang affiliation, whatever. The way people act and talk about these groups tells you all you need to know about the existence of it. Eat the rich, these people shouldn't be able to talk, be able to vote. People have an deep need to know who they are with and who they are not with. I genuinely think it is impossible to do away with this seemingly biological mechanism in people. People literally get off thinking they are sticking it to the other side or scoring for the team - look at how people in any of these threads behave. What important is that people understand how to treat others, not making sure that they are educated on the specifics of what groups exist and why. I understand that it's controversial to say this, but I'm sure you understand I'm not saying this with ill intent. There are legitimate reasons why someone would want to avoid exposing their children to certain aspects of that community in it's current state - religious and bigoted dispositions aside. Oversexualization, animosity, the dysphoria and confusion in the trans and other parts of the community (regardless of your opinion, the norm has changed drastically over the last 5-10 years, it's obvious that it's not clear what's 'true' and what isn't even to them, what's healthy for kids, what medical intervention is healthy and appropriate). So long as parents are loving and understanding, kids are going to grow up and learn who they are much more effectively with the support of their community than reading what some groomer tells them they think online.
Lastly, hiding things from your kids does not mean they are going to grow up hating it. If you teach your kids to respect and understand others, that's all they need to know. I saw someone with what I assume to be Botox horns the other day at work. Do you know what I did? I served them their food and told them to have a nice day.